Are you open or transferring misery?

Substantial difference between being told/asked: What makes you miserable? rather than being asked … How would you describe how you feel?

It was telling that misery was named. But who’s misery — that of the questioner, answerer, or someone that the questioner is thinking of?

Questions, and how we ask them. Succinct questions elicit brief answers. Sloppily formed questions offer little cohesion, focus. And are more about the messy mind asking a question in the midst of their own declaration than they are about seeking the inner opinions of the person asked.